You Are Worthy! – Introducing “The Worthy Project”


You are here for a divine purpose, and appointment.  You are here to hear truth, to be renewed, reminded of your beauty, your worth, that you are loved, and if you’re a photographer that you have an enourmous responsibility as one who calls themselves a “Photographer”.

You see for so so long I lived under the banner that I wasn’t worthy.  31 years of it actually. Until last year when I wrote this post.

God was stirring.  He was up to something grand, and I didn’t know, just then, what it was.

He’d just thrust upon me a booming Clothing Boutique that ended one of my life long battles, and contributing reasons to my feelings of unworthiness, with FINALLY being able to afford and source truly trendy, FLATTERING, clothing for my curves.

The struggle then became finding manufacturers who made beautiful, flattering clothing over a size 12/Large. A task still proving so difficult that some weeks I just can’t fight the frustration so I don’t shop for the Boutique at all.

When you research though to find out WHY it’s so hard only to find that while an overwhelming 67% of Americans are a size 14 and higher, but only 30% of the entire WORLD’S manufacturers make anything over a Large/12 it compounds the frustration…and the anger.

I trudge on though because getting messages like this make it all completely worth it.

” I cannot EVEN tell you how thankful I am for you and your boutique !!! Three compliments already, and the day is still young! It was so very nice to dress with confidence this a.m. I actually feel good about my body the way it is. Clothing DOES make a difference! I am wearing the charcoal hanky hem swing shirt with blue jean jeggings and clogs. Although it will look much cuter with my cork sandals, I am actually happy with the way I look today in my clothing. Thank you, and may God continue to bless you AND your business!!” -S.S.

And this: “Here I am shooting a wedding reception in sweltering 95 degree heat, cool as a cucumber in my Buxom Boutique ensemble!” – C.H.

You see I’ve always, ALWAYS, been large. Thick is more like it 😉 Truthfully I’ve always sort of resented it too.  “Why can’t I lose weight!?”,  “Why do my calves have to be so big?  I just want to wear tall boots!”, “I hate my arms!  Why do they have to be so big? I can’t even wear most bracelets!” Magnolia Market Waco, TX Adventure - Houston Wedding Photographer - BraskaJennea Photography-45FIX

Until a few weeks ago though it didn’t really click until…

Two of my girlfriends and I, all three very thick and curvy ladies, decided to go raft the Hiawassee River.  Now, I’d been down it last year for the first time, and I’ll take the Ocoee over getting stuck on every.single.rock. in that river any day.  Nonetheless we went, and of course, got stuck on just about every rock cluster, and grass cluster ;p, that river had…and we went early in the day at the highest point!

Fast forward about half-way through when we slam into a bank, a tree branch swings back and knocks A* right into the freezing rapid, with boulders on both sides, feet over head. Of course at that point there would be absolutely ZERO rocks in that river. None!

Now I don’t know if you’ve ever fallen into a river filled with giant boulders and little rock piles covered in sometimes a lot, but usually only a little, rushing water, but I can say from experience it’s NOT one you really want to put yourself in…especially without a helmut or some sort of means to protect your head. IMG_4276.JPG

J* held on to A* by the life jacket as I one paddle paddled us to a nearby “island”.  Nope…no rocks there either…just a bank wayyy too steep that A* couldn’t climb up onto. So, frozen, and still a little in shock, I tightened her life jacket as tight as it’d go, and informed her I’d be pulling her up into the raft. J* used the nylon roll of cord I fortuitously brought along “just in case” to wrap around a tree limb and semi-anchor us for the operation.

Now, a little backstory.  Beginning with the vessle choice earlier in the day they wanted to opt for the one and two man inflatible kayaks. I just didn’t feel right, and even remember telling them “How would we get back into that if one of us were to fall out?” hahaha!  Oh little did I know!

She promptly informed me “Dude, there’s no way you’re going to be able to pull me in!”

She clearly didn’t know what I knew…that God in His infinite wisdom/sense of humor? made me a SHE-HULK…through no training of my own HA!  SO, I informed her that I would indeed be able to pull her into the raft. We were still hoping for a rock, anything she could step onto for at least a little leverage, but, alas, no.such.luck.

With her head and shoulders barely out of the water, feet not very steadily, and flatly on the bottom or a shallow rock/root I counted to 3 and she “jumped” what tiny bit she could.  I yanked her up onto the side of the raft, she assumed a rather hilarious “Superman” pose between my legs, while I adjusted to bring her on in the boat. IMG_4365.JPG

We laughed then once the diar-ness of the situation had passed, and replayed the now funny scene of HOW A* fell off the raft in what seemed “slow motion”.  It was in the laughter that I uttered what would be my new revelation…

“I guess THIS is why I’m built like this!  Because God knew at some point in my 33rd year I would have to deadlift my friend’s behind out of a river.” We laughed again, but I let that truth sink in.  I mean I know there are other reasons, but had I have been as thin and small as *I* want to be it wouldn’t have happened.

I AM “Fearfully and wonderfully made!”

The other ignition point came back in March at WPPI.  The world’s largest Professional Photographer’s Convention in Las Vegas.IMG_0359

I looked around at two enourmous ballrooms at the MGM Grand filled to the brim with Photography vendors showcasing everything from albums and prints, to web design, and equipment.IMG_0279.JPG

Having a clothing boutique unlike any other around that equally, sometimes more, carries 1XL thru 3XL Clothing I’ve become unusally intune with whether or not other businesses are ignoring the 67% of the population who are the “average” and a size 14 or larger.

I was sort of taken aback that an average sized client or larger never once appeared in any marketing displays, samples, or portfolios. None.

Nowhere did I see MYSELF represented in any of these companies that were vying for my business. It’s a good thing my self-esteem is pretty high 😉 Ha!  I just chalked it up to they wouldn’t be able to handle all of the business if they were to put my lovely mug in their marketing 😉

So now, along with knowing there was size bias in the Social Media/Blog/Magazine world, I was grossly aware my industry was perpetuating the notion that if you’re not a certain age range, or size/version of “small” you’re not worthy of showcasing a product or business.

Even more infuriated when I heard one of my, now former, older, female, photography idols talk about “Pretty people sell”, and how she wouldn’t put her own portrait on her website, though her before and after glamour portrait was STUNNING, because “no one wants to see that”.

What?!?! YES!  YES THEY DO!

People, women especially, WANT and DESERVE to see themselves represented in media…in photographs!   Women NEED to see that no matter their age, their wrinkles, their stretch marks, THEIR STORY, that they are WORTHY of having their legacy captured…WORTHY of an image that makes them feel as beautiful as they truly are…EXACTLY as they are!

We just don’t see “ourselves” represented, if at all, well enough to get the message.

Why do we think it’s so hard to get mother’s to pose with their babies?  Why is it so hard to get Boudoir and Glamour clients to walk through our doors?  Why is it we always hear the same sad words from client’s mouths?

“Oh I’ll break your camera!”

“Did I break your camera?”

“I’m just not photogenic enough”

“I just don’t feel good about myself.”

“My _______ is too ________.”

“You know it’s been probably 20 years since I had my picture taken!  I don’t look good enough anymore for a photo.”

Because THEY DON’T SEE PEOPLE LIKE THEM, BEAUTIFULLY AVERAGE PEOPLE, REPRESENTED…ANYWHERE! 

Want to know how bad it really is?  Go scroll through the popular Wedding Instagram accounts and blogs.  Go check out the Online and Print Magazines devoted to our industry.  Tell me how many MONTHS you have to go back to even fine ONE.SINGLE.IMAGE of a bride, family, senior, etc… that would be described as our national average or above of a size 14 or higher…hey, try to even find one over a size 8.  I looked through FIVE Instagram accounts, all of the “big” well known Wedding Blogs, I found ONE in only three of them…going back over 25 weeks on each.

One day I want a grand wedding, I’ll certainly have waited long enough for it.  I’ve planned, did floral design, and photographed enough of other bride’s days that I know what details and looks get published.  The sad truth is though, even if I have Kaitlyn, or Justin and Mary, or Jasmine, Leslee, or Kristyn, or Zach and Jody capture it, I’m fairly certain, given the state of our industry now, that it would never get featured all because the industry, and the American culture we live in, doesn’t see ME and those like me, as worthy.

That makes me angry.

YES it absolutely takes extra time posing, angling, lighting, coaching on clothing, etc… for a curvy client, but if you don’t want to take the time to capture their beautiful spirit in the most beautiful way possible the same as any other client, then send them to me.  I’ll be happy to show them what a TRUE Professional Photographer SHOULD be able to do!Magnolia Market Waco, TX Adventure - Houston Wedding Photographer - BraskaJennea Photography-49fix

I saw and blasted a male Boudoir “photographer” this year in a Photography group who literally admitted he told a size 26 woman who came into his studio asking to “be photographed as beautiful as she feels” that it “wasn’t possible” because of her size.  No, I’m NOT even kidding.

Who the hell do we think we are either verbally, or by refusing to showcase them, telling clients that they have to be a certain size or age to be beautiful enough to be photographed?

I get it.  I know it’s not easy.  I’ve had more than my unfair share of horrible portraits byx photographers over the years, ohhhh don’t get me started on the “Professionals” and the Studio who later did another session from the horrifc mess that were my Senior portraits.

It is our JOB however to look through that lens and see every.single.different body type, every possible *flaw* they may be self-conscious about, and know or be contemplating as soon as we consult with them on how we’re going to capture them.

How we are going to FLATTER and visually slim or hide those imperfections they worry about themselves, that others probably never see but to them it’s the hump on The Hunchback of Notre Dam, to bolster their self-esteem when they step in front of our lens.

We hold such fragile pieces of each precious soul in our hands.  A soul with a story, a beautiful, unique story, that deserves to be told and encouraged that they are in fact beautiful and worthy of being seen.

We must be ever so mindful of that, and educate ourselves to the best of our ability to not shoot everyone, every body type, the same.  Because honestly you just cannot do it, and make every timid, nervous, aprhensive, delicate, unique being that steps in front of you feel like they are as wonderful and beautiful as they truly are.

So, yes send me your Curvy brides, Boudoir wives or engaged women, Seniors, Families, and Headshots if you feel you can’t do them justice.  Or even BETTER hire me to COACH you on how to do what I do.  Hell, hire me to come style your Curvy Brides and Grooms during Weddings or Bridals!  I’ll teach you in the process!

I can’t do them all though, and honestly I don’t want to because I want YOU to feel that love and gratitude those clients who haven’t ever felt good about a photograph of themselves feel when they see an image YOU captured of them!

So, I introduce you to The Worthy Project.  I want to start a movement in the Wedding, Photography, and Videography industries to right the decades of wrong, and make sure every soul leaves our businesses, whatever the medium, feeling valued…feeling seen..feeling WORTHY!IMG_6164.PNG

Will you join me?

XOXO, B

 

Why Digitals and Discs are FINALLY Dying – The Resurrection of Professional Prints


If you’re a client of mine you’ve seen the image below in my BraskaJennea Magazines.  If we’ve met in person you’ve seen the “Oompah Loompah” Wal-Mart and Shutterfly prints, and the “Vampire Grey” Walgreen’s prints alongside their professional lab counterparts. You’ve felt the paper quality differences as well from my Kodak Endura Professional as opposed to “Photo Paper”.

I’m so thankful to finally see the rise again back to full service Professional Photography…helping clients have beautiful, tangible, prints showcasing our works of heart to hang in their homes…instead of just on social media!

There’s a big cry right now for “Give me digitals, or I’m gone!”, but walk into a traditional Portrait Studio that’s been around awhile, and that “disc” you walk out with winds up only being for your own personal computer use.  Most don’t include a print release, and they’re sized so small they look strange on social media, and for good reason.

They, like me, don’t want their beautiful works of art butchered by retail printers and cheap retail ink that’s only going to fade or yellow like those prints your parents have of you in that box in the closet.  Keeping them low res is a necessity because sadly enough if people can jack your work with a shoddy screen grab or download from Facebook that looks distorted from stretching to print a 4×6 then by jolly they will.

Thankfully though people are finally coming back to the realization that those “old school” Portrait Shops have hung onto all along….digital media changes, the technology we had 5 years ago is hard enough to navigate, much less finding readers or software to load discs and programs from 20 years ago.

Computers even now are rumored to start rolling out sans a CD drive at.all.  Children today have no idea what a land line phone or Walkman is!

Who’s to say that in 10 years, much less 100, people will even know what a .JPG file is…or how to view it?

I think my First thru 3rd grade years were made perfect simply by a “Computer Game” on an ooooold, HUGE, Macintosh computer.  The one, the only, OREGON TRAIL!

Up there with programming exploding fireworks later in 7th and 8th grade in DOS Command Prompt those were the highlights of my Elementary School career.

I still remember when that box of O.T. GIANT floppy discs came out of the cabinet!  It was GAME TIME!  I was about to cross some rivers, kill some food, and catch some illness that could take me or my family out all while battling thieves, weather, and busted wagon problems.

They seemed like they were 10×10 back then, but now I know they were really only 5.25″ squares.  Later in school we learned we could save our work to those floppy discs….they were multipurpose!

A few years after that we got those 3.5″ Hard floppy discs. A lot smaller, could hold “a lot” more, and were much more durable than their large counterparts.

I still have a box of my first ever digital camera pictures, and work from high-school and college, saved to those discs.  Ahhhh the memories they must hold.

But…there’s one *TIIIIIINY* problem….

There’s no way to access them!  I tried plugging in an old Floppy Reader a couple of years ago to my laptop….nothing happened.  I made sure they were unlocked so I could read them, and nada.

So, while I get it, we’re a digital society, I must ask you this important question…What would you do if your parent’s or grandparent’s wedding images were solely stored on one of these bad boys?  BJP Weddings Investment Website image4

What if that CD breaks, gets lost in a move, or your child scratches it?  What if your external and/or computer hard drives crash, at the same time, (ask me all about that one!)?

Someone recently said “But we have the Cloud so we don’t have to worry about that!”

Really?  You’re 100% comfortable, and certain, that some unseen super computer server somewhere in the universe won’t evvvver fail?

You’re positive that with all of the recent data breaches stealing credit card info, and leaking images stolen from celeb’s phones and cloud storage systems that your photos are ALWAYS going to be safe and stored?

You have a lot more faith in that system than I do.

I pay my WONDERFUL Online Gallery people at Shootproof.com archival fees each month to back-up my client’s images for at least three-years (after that I think it just gets a little expensive storing hundreds of thousands of images), but if their site, or the Cloud, or Pixieset, or Pass, etc… were to be hacked, or fail, or what.ev.er, how would you view your memories?

My liability is gone after I deliver your products, storing for as long as I do is merely a courtesy.

If your Facebook account got deactivated how would you get those images back that were on that phone you had 5 years ago and never saved?

If your phone got water damaged and refuses to boot up any longer how would you view those images of your child’s birth and life that you had stored no place else?

Yes, if Heaven forbid you had a fire, a flood, a natural disaster, etc… that ruined your prints, digitals might save you…that is if the media format you had them saved on somehow survived, but chances are that disc is gone too.

So, don’t ask me for “Just a CD”.  That’s not the BJP way.  It used to be, but I turned a corner 3 years ago, and I want my clients to have tangible parts of their legacy to pass down.

I wan them to have tangible heirlooms they can flip through at Christmas in a giant box that’s so worn it’s about to fall apart from all the family memories tucked away inside,a nd all of the times it’s been passed around after stuffing ourselves with turkey and pie.

There really isn’t a comparison for professional archival quality prints that you know will look just as vibrant and transcendent long after you’re gone.

Once you see a Bride looking like a sunburned orange fictional character out of Willy Wonka accusing you of tampering with her images, or an image you edited of a beautiful pink, warm, newborn looking grey and lifeless hanging on a client’s wall, that’s it.  You educate, educate, educate, and become a “hybrid” print and select few digitals photography business.

Plus hanging a disc on your wall just looks silly 😉

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Print your client’s memories.  Show them the comparisons in your studio, or online like this one. And if you can find one show them an old school Floppy Disc.  We owe it to them to help them pass these memories on, and stand the test of time!

Happy Printing!

xoxo,  B

Joann + Brian – A Birthday Surprise Lifestyle Session – Cleveland, TN Photographer


Warning: This session may cause boyfriend envy. Brian contacted me a few months ago about a plan to surprise his gal Joann with a portrait session for her birthday.

We worked out details which included me putting together a bouquet of summer flowers, a balloon bouquet, and a giant cupcake for the session.

Brian secured his uncle’s GORGEOUS vintage blue Chevy pick-up truck he’s fully restored, and if you know me at.all. you know I LOOOOVE old cars and trucks!

We started out at Brian’s childhood friend’s home in Charleston, Valley Event Barn, which has a stunning large pond, and beautifully landscaped grounds.

The session kicked off by Joann’s flowers, balloons, and cupcake waiting on her as she exited the house. Tears started to flow as she whispered “This is the sweetest thing anyone’s ever done for me!” I think he did well 😉

We headed to the dock for some portraits where Joann was scooped up in a canoe by her fella for a sweet ride across the pond.

A few wardrobe changes, and we used the cabin’s front porh as light flooded around them on the porch swing. I’m a sucker for killer natural light, and this day there was no shortage of it!

The truck was brought to another family member’s home just down the road for the final sunset part of the day. When the truck was brought in I think I might have squeeled like a little girl…it.was.AWESOME!

The night ended with some fantastic horse wrangling, and finally a lovely silhouette of Brian and Joann in the truck’s headlights.

Possibly these two took the prize for new favorite session…and Brian scored MAJOR points for not only getting her a photoshoot…but for happily being IN the pictures as well. Fellas take note 😉
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Bridal Makeup Tips – The Beauty of Lash Extensions: A Nightmare Turned Fairy-Tale – Weddings 101


Today’s blog post is a personal one. An informational horror story turned fairytale.

Brides, are you worried about crying on your wedding day? Moms, worried about mascara running down your face as your baby walks down the aisle? Maids, worried the heat will melt your mascara, and for tears to run it down your face watching your BFF get married? I’ve always coached my BJBrides towards Eyelash Strips to OOMPH their lashes on Wedding Day without a ton of mascara (and my Seniors, Headshots, and Boudoir wives too), but these are BETTER! WAYYYY BETTER!

LASH EXTENSIONS are the way to go! Seriously one application lasts 2 to 3 weeks (they shed off with your natural lash shed cycle), so think of not having to worry about mascara running! Think of not having to take those “bare lash” honeymoon images so many of your friends have had to take because either there’s not much time to maintain mascara in and out of the water, or island hopping. NO mascara needed, but yet you still have lashes!!! It’s possible, and here’s my story on how I FINALLY got my dream come true….albeit I took an unnecessary long route to get it.

I’ve known about eyelash extensions for a few years. Being an AVID strip eyelash wearer for over 10 years (started when I first sold Mary Kay wayyyy back in the day, and am now selling it again because I just loooove the stuff…ESPECIALLY the eyeshades!!!) the idea intrigued me.

I know…I know…most of you who’ve seen me would never would’ve guessed, but I suffered from eyelash shame and envy! I hate my natural lashes! I mean they just make the eyes POP when they’re long and lush…so I faked em…and I faked em goooood!

I’ve ALWAYS had sad, tiny, thin, blonde , SHORT natural lashes, and wearing tons of mascara only gunked them up into those “spider leg” looking messes you’ve probably seen on others who over do it. This resulted in a MESS if it was hot or I got them wet.

Strip lashes were good, but having to tack the edges back on every 2-3 days so I could wear them a few days longer was a pain…and again getting them Wet was NOT an option (even if the glue says “waterproof”)!

Being a photographer of course I’m photographing most of the time out in the heat, sweating, scrunching my eyes, for hours, even all day at weddings, so hoping and praying my strips weren’t coming literally unglued was always a small worry in the back of my mind! I mean who wants to be the professional photographer with BANGIN eyelashes one minute, and the next have them almost falling off?

Fast forward to my awesome Pastor’s wife Karen moving her Massage Therapy business into the Gallery Salon & Spa across the street from my downtown Athens, TN studio. She got them done months ago, and one day I noticed her eyes popped more than normal soooo being my nosey, inquisitive self I chimed “are those your real lashes?”

She copped to the truth immediately singing the praises of one of the Salon gals who was certified in Xtreme Lash Extensions…Angie Dixon! I heard the price and initially I had a little “Sticker shock”…fast forward again to a little more than two weeks ago.

I’d FINALLY saved up the “mad money” to do it, and for a couple of fill-ins, so I called….Angie was booked out to the end of April…I was IMPATIENT! I had the cash…wedding season was coming FAST like a train on the tracks….I wanted them YESTERDAY!

SO, the conversation in my head goes something like this… “Oh I’ll go get them done in Knoxville, and I can Angie do my fill ins!” I set out on my lash extension Google search, and THREE HOURS LATER I had paid my deposit, and booked an appointment for Tuesday (one week before Angie’s first available). These were going to be DOUBLE the price of Angie’s Initial Extensions+First Fill In. Again my thoughts went: “Oh that’ll be great! I’m paying more, but at least if I’m paying double in a bigger town I know they’ll be as good as Angie’s!”

Fast forward one.last.time. After 2.5 hours of being told just how “bad” my eyelashes were…how “short and fine” they were…how “difficult” they were…AND then a FIFTEEN MINUTE session of “combing”…I was permitted to see THIS with a hand mirror…

Per this company’s website these lashes are applied “…by a certified Eyelash Extensions Stylist for a NATURAL look and feel.” Is there anything “NATURAL” about this….???? They don’t even go all the way to the corners, there are huge gaps…and I don’t want to focus on the CROOKED-NESS!
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My nerves were SHOT! I KNEW there was no way these were coming off easily…or fast…I was panicking…shaking…and panic-stricken! “I’m NOT paying for THIS!” I was screaming in my head as I took a closer look in the bathroom.

As I walked to the front desk “to pay” my “certified lash stylist” was already busy with another appointment so I asked to speak to the salon director who tried to excuse the shoddy job with “well the lashes take on the shape or direction of your natural lashes”. I exclaimed my natural lashes DO NOT look like the Mad Hatter and pulled out the “before” image below….
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Do those lashes look like they have lashes running all sideways across my lash line? Huge GAPS between them? Ummmm..NO! She was very polite, even as I was still trying to just hold it together. She offered to have them removed right then (ANOTHER HOUR) by the same gal who’d just put them on, and assured me “She’ll do it with a smile, and without begrudging you!”

I declined, and asked for an appointment another day later in the week to come in and have them removed…they issued my refund, and I’ve never been back! I sent pictures to Angie and she called me later with advice on how to get them off since our schedules didn’t align for me to come see her and her remove them…I was STUCK looking like THIS for a WEEK! And all because I was impatient!

I did the best I could to make them look semi-“normal” that next week, but I wore A LOT of sunglasses…even at night…to hide my HORRIDEOUS mess that was supposed to resemble something like “eye-lashes”. Even following the advice I was given to remove them on my own FAILED 😦
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Tuesday the 29th at 9:20a.m. I entered The Gallery to have my poor little lashes babied by THE BEST…and THE BEST resides in a tiny little town btw…not a big city!

She busted up the CLUMPS of glue that were holding those pieces of junk to my real lashes, and after all was said and done my little lashes were a lot worse for the wear. I now had BALD SPOTS where the previous “certified lash stylist” had glued 3 AND 4 of my lashes to ONE extension…but yet their website states “…single synthetic strands of eyelashes applied ONE by ONE directly to your individual eyelashes with a medical grade adhesive…”

This was the “After” when all the junk was removed….
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Two Hours later (removing the trash and applying the new ones!) I was allowed to see something I’d wanted ALL.MY.LIFE…LASHES!!!! I squealed! I.HAD.LASHES!!!! ME!!! And they FINALLY looked NATURAL!!!!!!!!!!! (Sorry not sorry for all the !!!!! I was and still am sooooo ecstatic!!!!)

Top: What Angie was stuck removing…and then working with… Bottom: Lash Extension BRILLIANCE!  *She’s even trained how to handle crooked natural lashes…or in my case…GAPS/BALD SPACES!*
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So, to all my Brides-to Be, and any gal really, I want you to know not all Lash Extensions are created equally, and you DEFINITELY need to research and INSIST on seeing MULTIPLE before and afters the stylist has done! Angie has TONS she’s ready to show at the drop of a hat…the other salon’s website only have what look to be stock images…and only TWO total at that.

I should’ve known better! I tell potential clients, and Brides in general, to make sure they see samples of entire wedding portfolios (i.e. EVERY image they deliver to a wedding client) to make sure they have consistant quality, retouching, and edit style to ALL images delivered, so I should’ve forced that issue and demanded to see proof of this “certified” status. Instead I assumed just because the price was higher, in a place that does skin rejuvenation, botox, and more, and in a “big city” that these would be “awesome”…well they were awesome….awesomely HORRIBLE!

Xtreme Lashes are required to have true certification by completing classes, and this other salon was NOT a certified Xtreme Lash Salon (they did at least tell me they “don’t use Xtreme”, so that should’ve been a small warning!) Now I’m not saying Xtreme are the only way to go, but here in my experience so far their people are THE BEST! SO, do your research, demand to see samples they themselves have done, and look to smaller towns for top of the line, but less expensive, ROCK STARS like our own Lash Diva Angie Dixon.

Seriously I cannot say enough about this gal!!! She’s at the Gallery Salon on North Jackson Street, and if you tell her Braska sent you you’ll get a special New Client rate 😉 Seriously though IT’S FANTASTIC…and so will your lashes be!!!

XOXO loverlies!
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After 3 showers, and combing them nightly (or anytime I itch my allergy eyes and askew them!) They still look totally REAL!!! and…..NO MASCARA!
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Why does it take so long to get my finished images?


I was asked the other day why it takes me so long (typically 6-8 weeks…which is the industry standard actually) “just to edit a wedding session”. I chuckled….pondered a few moments, then answered, and thought I’d share for my upcoming “F.A.Q.” Section. Questions like these don’t bother me…well….not a lot…but they take A LOT of time to answer…time that I could be working on images! Sooooo I hope this cuts down on the # of questions I get not only from my fans, clients, Brides, but from others who want to know “Why?”  This is the 1st of more to come “F.A.Q.’s” so stay tuned!

Q: “Why does it take you so long just to edit a wedding session?” Or a portrait session (2-3 weeks)…for those of you wondering that as well! 🙂 Here’s the EXPANDED answer 🙂

A:  Because there are THOUSANDS of images from a wedding to sort/sift/rotate/backup…and THEN you get to select only the best to actually edit… and I’m an OCD control freak with my images! A perfectionist only in my ARTwork and add to that the fact that I can’t focus on one task for very long before “boredom” sets in…and there you have it…me…working on 2 or 3 sessions at a time just to keep focused and stay productive.

Then of course I have to bounce back and forth between editing the wedding(s) and non-wedding sessions, shooting, marketing, my “non-work” life (whatever that is… LOL), deliveries, ordering, designing, imports/exports to/from editing software, uploading to FB/Blog/Print sites, album creation, emails, phone calls/texts, slideshows, cd/dvd burning, meetings, contracts, the list goes on… and I’m just a one-woman show! My car’s a mess, my room’s a mess, my hair’s a hot MESS….but my images must be top notch all.the.time!  This is my career…my “living”! I can’t afford to have an “off” day on my images.

Editing is what takes the longest as I just can’t send my “babies” out in to the world “half baked”. If there’s a pimple, scar, wrinkle, makeup smudge, stretch mark, etc…. it must be addressed…and you HAVE to whiten the teeth if they need it. These are people’s memories…I can’t stand the thought that in a few years when they want to look back on their photos the only thing they’ll see would be that breakout/blemish, or that stretch mark, and not the beautiful memory! I just.can’t. be fast and produce QUALITY images. QUALITY takes TIME but it’s WORTH the WAIT!

I also suggest checking out my favorite Blog post on the issue “Are My Wedding Photos Finished Yet?” for another fine read 🙂

In closing I want everyone to see their images as soon as possible just bear with, and be patient, with myself and my fellow photographer friends, and we’ll get them all perfect and ready to you as fast as our fingers and editing software can render them! 🙂

I wouldn't go back to being a teenager for anything! I feel so sorry for them and especially during breakouts! This is the image I honed my blemish removal techniques on for the last couple of years!

Here’s an example of why it takes Me, especially, so long to edit a single image!  I won’t tell you how long it took, just be appreciative your photos will get the same TLC when you allow me to capture your life!